The relationship is the highest form of yoga. Projecting your childhood wounds onto your lover while wearing your PJ’s and blaming them for all your problems is not going to get you long-lasting relationship.
Our weird ticks around relationships are hilarious. What can you do about this funny thing happening on the planet regarding relationships? You must prepare, train and purify yourself for it. You must vigorously amplify what’s good about yourself. After the good feeling biochemistry wears off (the in-love feelings) you have to be trained to stay elevated above the contempt that seeps in when you get triggered and the childhood trauma gets kicked up.
Some of the deepest spiritual work you can do in a relationship is to say to the other person, “you are right.” Even if you don’t think so, you are big enough to tell them. It will change your life and relationships. They are right/wrong - none of it matters.
Some people want the fight and that’s ok. Be honest about what you get off on. If you say you’re right, then you are halfway to a hot make-out or better. If you continue the fight, then what’s that going to get you? See if you can really understand how the other person believes they are right. In yogic tradition this is Bodhisattva practice. You are making some else’s emotional well-being more important than your own.
Do you want to be reliving the power struggle you had with your siblings? That’s what you can rise above with the practice of empathy and seeing or at least saying you’re right.
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